And toss any kind of notions you have about the "type of woman who has rough sex." Unless you're policing the bedrooms of your friends, neighbors, or family (which, by the way, is wrong on so many levels) you never know what's going on behind closed doors. And nor should you! When sex is between two consenting adults, how they do it is their business. Your sex life shouldn't define you—after all, having sex is only one of the many activities in your busy schedule.
I don't know about you, but rough sex is like a jolt of adrenaline and makes me feel like I've had a really awesome workout. "Sex scars," those thumb-sized bruises or a sore throat from giving extra deep oral, serve as reminders of a steamy session and keep me remembering just how much I liked it. And that's not all. There are pros to having rough sex, which outweigh any potential embarrassment. And if any one tries to shame you for liking things a little rough in the bedroom, just share of the many reasons why there's nothing to be embarrassed about.