When it comes to sex, there are a lot of variables to consider. What you like, what your partner likes, whether you're ready or willing to try something new, sex positivity, consent, how to spice things up. Basically, there's a lot going on when you start analyzing sex. But the most important part is whether or not you're enjoying it. Because as empowering as sex can be, there are also some sex acts that people just plain don't like. One of the forerunners? Oral sex. There are plenty of reasons not to be embarrassed if you hate oral sex. Because the bottom line is, oral sex is not for everyone.
For some, it's the giving of oral sex that they just can't seem to get into. Whether your partner is a male or a female, sometimes you're just not into putting your mouth in intimate places. And guess what? That's okay. For others, it's the receiving of oral sex that turns them off. I know plenty of women who just aren't that into cunnilingus. Everyone's sexual tastes are different, and there's no shame in whatever your pleasure game is. Even if you hate oral sex, and want nothing to do with it. Read on for all the reasons you shouldn't be ashamed, and rest assured there's nothing to be embarrassed about.
1You're Not Alone
Think you're the only one who hates oral sex? Think again. Just because women aren't talking about it doesn't mean they aren't thinking about it. Chances are good that more than one of your girlfriends isn't too keen on the idea of going down and getting down either.
2Your Preference Is Your Preference
At the end of the day, your sex life is yours and yours alone. What you choose to do behind closed doors is your preference, and if you don't like something, you shouldn't have to do it. If you feel embarrassed or ashamed about having to explain yourself to your partner, just remember that any partner worth their salt will love you for you, and not just where you're willing to put your mouth.
3You Can Give And Not Receive
Even if you don't like receiving oral sex, you can still gift it to your partner — if you want to. If your partner likes receiving oral, you can rock their world without them having to reciprocate.
4You Can Receive And Not Give
And vice versa! If you like to receive oral sex but don't like to give oral sex, that's okay too. Being upfront with your partner about your preferences will help you in the long run.
5Sex Is Supposed To Be In Your Comfort Zone
I can't emphasize enough how paramount it is to be comfortable with what you're doing in your sex life. One of the key pieces of the sex positive movement is consent, on your part, and your partner's part. If you or your partner hate doing something sexual, you don't have to do it.
6You Don't Have To Give Or Receive
Oral sex is not a contest. It's not a "you scratch my back, I'll scratch yours" activity. It's a sexual act that you can choose to, or not to participate in. It's not something you trade. A good partner will respect your choice, no matter what that choice is.
7There Are Other Ways To Be Intimate
Oral sex isn't the beginning or end of the sexual world. There are so many other ways to pleasure your partner, and have your partner pleasure you. Sex is an intimate act, and there's a world of sexual opportunities out there for you to try on if you're not down with oral.