Sex in a long term relationship can be like a candy bar: sometimes you feel like a nut, sometimes you don't. After you've been together for awhile, the hot and steamy romps of your first months together taper off in frequency, and — if you're being honest — can sometimes feel like a little bit of work. Let's face it, you and your partner aren't both going to always be feeling tingly at the same time. But even when you're not in the mood, the reasons to have maintenance sex can be appealing for more reasons than one.
You may be wondering why on earth you should muster up the energy when you're just not feeling it. But maintaining your sex life is good for your health, your partner, and your relationship. So how much is enough to keep things on the up and up? Although each situation is unique, according to Today, when couples have sex less than once a week, their happiness declines. Enter maintenance sex. Making time for sex can be important in strengthening your relationship as well as keeping your mental wellness in check.
For a good look at how to stay connected, consider these seven reason to have maintenance sex even when you'd rather be sleeping.
1. To Be Nice
As the website for Jezebel pointed out, it's totally cool to have maintenance sex to be nice to your partner, if you want to. Indulging their needs is fine as long as you are ready and willing to do it for those reasons, with no hard feelings or objections.
2. To Bust Stress
If stress is the reason you don't feel like getting it on, a romp may be just what you need. According to Reader's Digest, sex is a great stress buster and can even lower blood pressure. So it turns out this type of sex can be maintenance on your stress levels as well.
3. To Strengthen The Relationship
Helping to fill your partner's needs can make a solid foundation for your relationship. In a study published in Social Psychology and Personality Science, researchers found that even if both partner's weren't desiring sex at the same time, having sex more often helped to strengthen their relationship.
4. To Help You Prioritize
With busy schedules and lots to do, sometimes sex can fall down a few notches on the priority list. But sex is a great way for couples to connect and keeping it on the priority list will give you valuable intimacy, as The New York Times pointed out.
5. To Increase Your Love Quotient
It's no surprise that sex gets your blood pumping, and as the veins are pulsing, some strong hormones are along for the ride. As Psychology Today reported, oxytocin is released during orgasm, causing feelings of love and bonding to the person you're getting busy with. So some maintenance sex every now and again can only make you feel more affectionate toward your partner.
6. To Keep Anxiety Away
Having a routine romp in the sheets may be the trick of keeping your worries away. According to Prevention magazine, people who went long periods without having sex tended to feel more anxious than those who were doing it on the regs.
7. To Improve Immunity
The winter months may not having you feeling the most in the mood, but cold and flu season may be the smartest time to engage in maintenance sex. As the website for Dr. Mercola pointed out, "people who have sex frequently (one or two times a week) have significantly higher levels of immunoglobulin A (IgA)," which is your body's first line of defense.