Finding out that your partner cheated on you can be crushing. It shatters the illusion that your relationship was immune to such hurt and betrayal, causes the trust between the two of you to dissipate, and alter your idea of what your relationship is. Cheating can happen even in relationships that people think are happy ones — it's not relegated to relationships that are clearly unstable, unhappy, or unhealthy. You might be surprised to find out, however, that there can also be some shocking ways that cheating could actually benefit your relationship. That's right, there can actually be a bit of an upside to discovering that your partner has cheated on you. While it might be difficult to acknowledge them as such right away, over time, some of these benefits can become clearer. From the way you approach relationships in the future to the way you communicate within your current relationship, there are some good things that can ultimately come out of what's undoubtedly a terrible and devastating situation.
Because there's no one definition of what cheating is, it's hard to know exactly how many people do it, but it's safe to say that it might be more common than you thought. Anita Chlipala, a licensed marriage and family therapist and a dating and relationships expert, told Refinery29 that she thinks that cheating might be contagious, so, essentially, if you're around a lot of people who think cheating is OK, you might be more apt to cheat as well.
Whether that's true or not, it's hard to argue with the fact that whatever behavior that you'd define as cheating can feel earth-shattering, but there also just might be a silver lining to it after all.