Most of the time, new moms are depicted as peaceful, nurturing, and calm. Hardly are they viewed as angry, irritable, or full of rage. So when you find yourself screaming at your partner because they brought you the wrong burrito, or getting angry with your baby because they won't stop crying, you might not know what's happening or why. According to experts, while some anger is absolutely normal, there are some signs that your new-mom anger is something serious, and absolutely shouldn't be ignored.
According to Postpartum Progress, anger, having a short temper, and irritability can all be signs of postpartum depression (PPD). This might seem strange, because when most people think about depression they think "sadness." But people experiencing postpartum depression can feel a variety of other emotions, too. Another problem, according to the Pacific Postpartum Support Society, is that in our culture we don't really talk about moms being angry. So when it happens it can catch a new mom by surprise and make things feel severe. As Karen Kleiman, a licensed clinical social worker and director of the Postpartum Stress Center, writes for BabyCenter, anger can be scary because it's often experienced by parents who are generally not angry people.
If you are angry or irritable after your baby is born, you should definitely not ignore your feelings. According to the American Pregnancy Association (APA), in addition to PPD, anger can also be a symptom of other postpartum mood disorders, including postpartum post-traumatic stress disorder (PPTSD) or postpartum psychosis (PPP), which require treatment from a medical professional. So keep these signs in mind, and don't be afraid to reach out for help if you feel like you need additional postpartum support.