If you've had some bad luck in the love department, then chances are you've been in a relationship with a person who is selfish, conceited, or just a little too into their looks. Although it can be annoying to have to contend with someone who has to be the center of everyone's attention on a regular basis, most people just shrug it off. But when can an over-inflated ego become more than a pain and turn into a real problem? Are there signs your partner is a narcissist?
Narcissism isn't just about trendy clothes and manscaping. The Mayo Clinic defines narcissism as, "a mental disorder in which people have an inflated sense of their own importance, a deep need for admiration and a lack of empathy for others." The traits can show themselves in practically every situation — at work, in the gym, and especially in relationships. This person will draw you in with undeniable personality and charm, but it won't take long for them to start showing their true colors. You may even find that your partner exhibits behavior similar to that of a kindergartener.
So does your boo thinks it's always all about them? Here are some ways to know if you're dating a narcissists or just someone who's a little too vein.
1They Spend Too Much Time In The Bathroom
If you're dealing with a narcissist, prepare to fight for time in front of the mirror. Don't be surprised if you catch them blowing kisses at their reflection.
2They Talk More Than They Listen
Do you find that you can't seem to get a word in edgewise? Remember, a narcissist is preoccupied with their own needs, and probably not even aware that they've been rambling incessantly. As Psychotherapist Joseph Burgo wrote on the site After Psychotherapy, narcissists' need to have people listen to them as a part of their overall desire to feel significant.
3They're Always Late
Don't even think about trying to set your watch by this partner. Psychologist Susan Krauss Whitbourne explained on Psychology Today that narcissist see nothing wrong with being late, as they have little regard for other people's time. She adds that by keeping everyone waiting, they get even more attention when they finally show up.
Narcissists have to be the center of attention, and aren't about to accept sharing the spotlight with anyone. You may find that they have a problem with anyone or anything that takes your attention away from them.
5They Always Have To Win
Whether it's a political debate or a game of cards, this person takes competitiveness to another level. On her website, author and psychotherapist Diane England, notes that a narcissist thrives on the thrill of victory - something that sets them apart from the rest of us losers. Winning is the oxygen that keeps their egos inflated.
6They Can't Take Criticism
Feedback is not usually well-received from a narcissist. They see constructive criticism as a personal attack, rather than something that can help them be better. Beware that this may result in a full-blow tantrum.
Does your darling expect VIP treatment at Starbucks? Narcissists are focused on fame more than most, and think they deserve to roll first class everywhere they go.