Most people don't get married anticipating a divorce. But, with almost half of all marriages ending, it's no wonder that so many books and advice columns are dedicated to helping you determine whether you or your spouse are showing signs of a potential breakup. Why don't we, as married people, focus more on the positive attributes of our marriages? Instead of spending so much time trying figure out all of the ways your relationship stinks, try to see the good in your marriage by identifying the signs that your spouse isn't going to divorce you.
Every marriage has had good times and bad times. The ultimate goal is for the positive to outweigh the negative. You can do that by appreciating everything that is right about your relationship rather than turning small mistakes into deal-breakers. Of course, if all you do is look for signs of cheating and tally off your partner's shortcomings according to one of the many online lists, eventually one of you will give up and start looking for a divorce attorney.
If you both, instead, look for some of the signs that your marriage is working, you can change your entire mindset and have a long and happy marriage.