It can be hard to tell when you are being realistic in terms of finding love, and when you are actually settling for a bad fit. That said, there are some pretty clear signs you're trying to talk yourself into a relationship that is not working out very well. Trying to force a romantic relationship is rarely going to have positive results, because these things need to grow and develop naturally over time.
For the most part, a healthy and positive romantic relationship will not require so much force. To some extent, it should feel easy and natural. "A good relationship or marriage requires work along the way, believe me, but the work shouldn't be hard — leaving you exhausted and spent. Easy is the word to think about, and if you can nod your head to that about your relationship, you're most likely in good shape," said dating coach Bela Gandhi, the founder and president of Smart Dating Academy, in TODAY. So if your current relationship feels anything but easy, then it may be time to think about your options. Ultimately, a relationship that develops easily and naturally over time is going to feel better than one that you don't honestly want all that much.