You never really know how your body will adjust to the end of your pregnancy and the beginning of postpartum life. You know your body is supposed to stretch and grow when you're pregnant, but the lasting results of those physical changes aren't obvious until that baby leaves your body. Case and point? Your stomach. Because of how drastic your stomach changes, from pre-pregnancy to pregnancy to post-birth, there are things every grown-ass man says about his partner's postpartum belly that will make every new mom feel at least somewhat more comfortable in her new post-baby body.
To be completely honest, my body never "snapped" back to what it was or looked like before I had kids. Like, not even a little bit. I've never been incredibly fit-looking, and have struggled with weight and eating disorders throughout my entire life, but pregnancy really and truly did me in. The biggest changes I noticed were in my hip and thigh area, and, of course, my belly. I wasn't blessed with great genetics, either, and my pregnant and postpartum body made me realize that no matter what kind of beauty or "slimming" products are marketed to expecting and new moms, so much of how our bodies react to motherhood is entirely beyond our control.
That permanent "pooch" left over from baby growing is something I spend a lot of time feeling insecure about, because no amount of exercise or nutrition has eliminated what's left of my postpartum stomach. As a result of my internalized feelings about my "mom bod," and the unrealistic beauty expectations our culture has for women, it's important my grown-ass man keeps his comments about my stomach to a minimum. And if he chooses to speak out about my belly, his words should absolutely resemble the following: