Although females have historically been on the receiving end of criticism and shaming in terms of their body, males are not immune to having physical insecurities or being pressured to present a certain way. My husband has even recounted to me how awkward things could be in the locker room during those formative years. Having a son of my own, I know just how important it is to have open, judgment-free talks with him. But if you're like me, sometimes you're stumped on things to say to when your son insults his body. It can be especially challenging, being a mother with no real frame of reference for the male experience.
As it turns out, just a few hours spent watching television with the intention of looking for how the male body is treated, addressed, or portrayed was surprisingly eye-opening. For instance, in one commercial a man is showering when his girlfriend tells him he's using feminine body wash. Next thing you know, he's engaging in super macho activities in an effort to, I don't know, prevent him from growing a vagina? As confusing as that ad was, one thing was clear. There is plenty of pressure to fit a certain mold aimed at young males and it's always helpful to learn what to say when your son insults his body. Here are just a few ideas of things to say next time your son says something negative about his body.