I'm thick in the midst of potty training my youngest and, well, some days I think it may kill me. Not only does it test my tolerance for "gross," but it can also be mentally exhausting as I ask repeatedly, "Do you need to potty yet? How about now?" I've noticed there are some things you can only learn about marriage after potty training so I guess, in the middle of all that bathroom gunk, there's a little optimism buried. Yay? Yeah, I'll go with, "Yay."
With my daughter (who is now 10), training her to use the bathroom was definitely a learning experience in and of itself. Still, she passed with flying colors (and few accidents to her credit). My partner and I had her out of the nighttime pull-up when she was 5 years old, which is exactly how old my son is now. My son, on the other hand, has zero interest in staying dry through the night. Sigh. I realize they're different kids but I'm like, "Dude. I don't want to be changing your pee pants at your high school graduation so let's get this thing done!" Of course, he thinks I'm hilarious and that wearing underwear and staying dry through the night is a distant dream or fable and something he (apparently) doesn't think he's capable of. Sigh again.
Through all of these trials and tribulations (and more sighing and eye rolling), my relationship with my partner has gone on a ride of its own. Years ago, when we referred to our trusty potty chart to inspire our daughter, I don't remember feeling as frustrated (read: tired) as I do now. Even when our daughter had those accidents, it felt easier to chalk it up to trial and error. She seemed to learn by each one and upped her "dryness game." She was empowered by staying dry whereas, our son is really indifferent about all of it.
Just in the last couple of weeks, my partner has decided to teach our son how to stand while peeing. Prior to his noble endeavor, my son had to sit because he's so tiny. I've never been more mortified to walk into the bathroom than I am now. Have you witnessed, or been part of, this process? Just thinking about it gives me chills. Through it all, I can definitely say my partner and I have learned more than we ever thought possible about our children's bathroom habits, our frustration levels, and the quality of our marriage (and how much it actual sh*t it can take without breaking)!