Sometimes you just need some time apart from your partner to do things on your own. While that's perfectly fine, it is, of course, also pretty important that you and your partner do things together. Some of the specific things that are important for you and your partner to do together will vary from couple to couple, based on your own priorities and relationship dynamic, but there are also some things you need to make a point of doing with your partner if you want your relationship to succeed. Thinking more critically about how what you choose to do together versus what you choose to do separately from your partner affects the relationship that you have with them (both currently, as well as how it might affect things going forward) can give you some insight into why it's important that you continue to do these things together or why you might want to make a change.
"You don’t have to give up being an individual," Erin C. Parisi, LMHC, CAP, a licensed mental health counselor and certified addictions professional based in Orlando, Florida, tells Romper by email. "Not everything has to be together. But there has to be overlap, and you have to do the things that build the bond with your partner, and you have to do them repeatedly — it’s an investment in the relationship."
Making a point of doing certain things with your partner isn't just important in terms of getting to know one another better and enjoying one another's company, but because it can help solidify that you're on the same page when it comes to your shared future, as well.