7 Things You're Not Doing In The Bedroom That Are Holding Your Relationship Back

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As far as you're concerned, your sex life is going great. Until one day your partner comes to you and says there's a problem in your relationship... and it stems from sex. It might be that you refuse to turn the light off or that you stay quiet as a mouse. Whatever the issue, there may be several things you're not doing in the bedroom that are holding your relationship back.

According to WebMD, there are several sex mistakes that women can make that not only make your sex life a little humdrum, but also affect your relationship beyond the bedroom. and your partner dissatisfied in the bedroom and outside of it. It's never easy to admit that you might be doing something wrong. In fact, it might actually make your confidence in the bedroom plummet — which, ironically enough, is one of the blunders you might be making. But having an open and honest conversation with your partner is sure to get your love life back on track.

As you're lying in bed after another less than stellar sexual encounter, it might be good for you to take a look at the seven sex and relationship faux pas below and determine whether you're making any of them.

1You Don't Make Noise

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According to YourTango, not making any noise during sex can be awkward and make your partner doubt that they make you happy. This simple fix can open up a whole new world of communication in your relationship, since your partner can get to know your body better and make the experience more pleasurable for both of you.

2You Don't Initiate Sex

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According to StyleCaster, initiating sex tells your partner that you find them attractive. If you're always waiting for them to make the move — or worse, don't engage in sex at all — they may start to doubt how you feel about them.

3You Don't Participate

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According to Essence, not participating in sex can lead to a boring sex life. . This doesn't just mean initiating sex, but also staying active during the act and doing your part. That boredom in the bedroom can lead to boredom outside of the bedroom, and big trouble for your relationship as a whole.

4You Don't Have Sex On Your Period

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Sure, sex on your period can be a little messy, but StyleCaster noted that avoiding it could take a toll on your relationship. Why? By not allowing your partner to get close to you during a particularly vulnerable time, you are implying that you don't fully trust them.

5You Don't Tell Your Partner What You Want

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You probably know what you want, but are you speaking up? According to the previously mentioned YourTango article, not telling your partner what you like during sex can speak to larger communication issues. It's important to openly communicate about your sexual, emotional, physical, and mental needs with your partner. If you can't do that, then you may not be with the right person.

6You Don't Take Your Clothes Off

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Your partner wants to feel that sensual skin-on-skin contact because that is an important part of creating a connection. According to Mic, skin-on-skin contact leads to overall happiness and strengthens your bond.

7You Don't Have Any Confidence

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Confidence is really important in the bedroom, and in life. According to YourTango, your partner can become turned off by your negative attitude , which can create an unnecessary relationship risk.