7 Thoughts About Your Partner That You Should Never Ignore, According To Experts
You likely have a ton of different thoughts about your partner depending on the week, day, hour, or even minute. If you're spending the day together, having a great time, your thoughts might be loving and positive. If you're frustrated with something they forgot or the way they're handling a certain situation, the thoughts might not be quite as happy. Still, those thoughts, generally, probably aren't anything you need to worry much about. No one gets along all the time. People get annoyed and frustrated. It's normal. But there are some thoughts about your partner that you should never ignore, according to experts, that, if you have them, might be something about which you should be a little bit more concerned. Though some thoughts can be difficult to control (everyone thinks things that are unrealistic or are an over-exaggeration sometimes), if your thoughts are overly negative, you definitely need to take notice.
"Every couple should be aware of the negative thoughts that are created about their partner," Dr. LaWanda N. Evans, EdD, LPC, NCC, a licensed professional counselor, tells Romper by email. "Couples should identify the factors that contribute to the thoughts, and identify healthy ways to deal with the negative thoughts. How you feel about each other is created by the thoughts you have about each other; and keep in mind, negative thoughts lead to assumptions, and creates your perception about your mate, which are all caused by little-to-no communication in the relationship."
If you have these thoughts about your partner, paying attention to them and dealing with them, rather than just brushing them aside, can help you determine whether they're true — and a problem in your relationship — or whether they're based on your feelings in the moment.