When you first start a relationship with someone, you're typically still getting to know each other. And though couples progress at all different rates, with some couples moving quite quickly and others really taking their time, there are some general topics to avoid in the first year of a relationship that some relationship therapists suggest aren't broached until after your relationship has progressed to a certain point. Though some relationship experts don't think you should take any topic of conversation off the table entirely, particularly from a communication standpoint, others believe that there are topics that some couples shouldn't discuss too soon.
Every couple is different, so what might feel like an early-on topic for some might be a long-way-down-the-road conversation for another. "The amount of time they spend together and how fast the relationship progresses does impact what stage they are in," Toni Coleman, LCSW, CMC, a psychotherapist, relationship coach, and divorce mediator tells Romper by email. "What a couple discusses really should be connected to how fast their relationship has moved through the basic stages, and how ready they both feel for deeper commitment, otherwise they risk oversharing with someone they will not end up making a commitment to — and this can lead to blow back and regret."
Making certain topics off-limits and avoiding them isn't necessarily the same thing. Dr. Mimi Shagaga, PsyD, a clinical psychologist, tells Romper by email that she doesn't think any topic should be strictly off-limits, but notes that not all couples will want to disclose certain things early on in the relationship. There just might be some topics that you want to avoid early in the relationship, particularly if your relationship is moving fairly slowly. Otherwise, you may end up regretting sharing certain things with your partner too soon.