Some things look so cool in the movies, but don’t work well off screen. Running through an airport to win back a loved one? Terribly romantic on film, but you’d probably be arrested in real life. Kissing in the rain? Gorgeous in a movie, but cold (and potentially dangerous if there’s lightning) in the real world. How about sex while standing or pushed against a wall? Hot as can be in fiction, but oh so awkward in reality. Well, most of the time. There are some tricks to master standing sex so your real life can be almost as steamy as your favorite film. Because that’s probably an easier fantasy to realize than anything involving an airport.
You don’t have to be a serious weight trainer or contortionist to learn how to have sex standing up successfully. (And to dispel a pretty old but pervasive myth: you can indeed get pregnant while having standing sex. Just so you know.) And while it may look dramatic and demanding, there are a bunch of tricks that you and your SO can utilize to make standing sex more sexy and less strenuous. In no time, you’ll be able to go at it like movie stars.
1. Lean Against A Wall
This is how it's always done in the movies, right? Cosmopolitan recommends you lean against the wall and "squat down a little for him to get the perfect fit." With the wall as a brace, nobody has to support anyone else's entire body weight.
2. Use Oral While She's Standing
Here's a fun variation. "I like when my boyfriend gives me oral crouching down while I'm standing," one reader mentioned in Glamour. "I steady myself against the wall and run my fingers through his hair, sometimes pulling it." This is also a good option if you’d like to try standing sex with another woman.
3. Accept Height Differences
Is there about a foot of height difference between you and your partner? As Buzzfeed cheekily noted, you should " avoid even attempting this if both parties aren’t the exact same height." Well, the shorter partner could always just stand on a footstool or something.
4. Use The Kitchen Counter
The kitchen isn't just for cooking. As passionate living coach Abiola Abrams wrote in Essence, "sitting up on the kitchen counter will give you great balance and control." It's all of the fun of standing sex with almost none of the work.
5. Standing Doggy
For a neat twist, both of you can face a full-length mirror. "He penetrates her from behind, enjoying watching her from many angles at the same time and giving her breasts some love," sex educator Patti Britton told Greatist. It's like starring in your own live-action movie.
6. Wrap One Leg
There's an easy way to keep you both from falling over. Cosmopolitan suggests you "try standing on one leg and hooking the other around his" and then have your partner hold on to the suspended things to support you. It's the most fun way ever to keep your balance.
Sometimes trial and error is the best way to go. "Try facing each other with one person leaning their back against the wall," Melanie Davis suggested in Psychology Today. "Then try it with both of you facing the wall with the person closest to the wall bending over a little or a lot." In no time you'll find out what works for you both.