While pregnancy and childbirth can be difficult in their own right, postpartum life is its own war. There's so much to figure out and adjust to, it can feel like you'll never find "normal" again. I had body image issues, bonding and attachment problems, and aside from all I was going through personally, there were the underlying relationship conversations my partner and I had to redefine because, you know, a new baby changes things. In some ways, being postpartum made me realize my sex life matters which isn't the worst realization to have when everything else in my life felt so disconnected.
After the birth of my children, my partner and I had to go through a sort of mourning process when it came to our sexual relationship (as couples have to do for a few weeks after delivery). While I didn't feel like being intimate after pushing a human out of my nether regions, I missed the closeness I had experienced between us pre-baby and during my pregnancy. It's something only he and I share, so when I went without it I really felt the absence of that closeness. I hadn't really thought about it in terms of just sex, because it became so much more than that. As soon as I was cleared for "activity," my partner and I decided not to take our personal time together for granted thereafter.
If postpartum life taught me anything, it's just how important our special time together truly is. Not only is it a necessary part of any healthy relationship, it's a necessary part of fulfilling the needs and desires of any hot-blooded human. With that, here's some of the ways this new mom thing made me realize just how much my sex life matters.