My partner and I couldn't be more different when it comes to our parenting styles. While I'm more of the authoritarian, rule-maker, and overall implementer of things, he's closer to the passive end, offering endless high-fives, avoiding confrontation, and generally nodding along to whatever our children request. I wish I could be slightly more permissive, but I've also hoped he'd morph into my mindset. Over the years, there have been a lot of ways I encouraged my passive parenting partner to get involved. Some have been successful while others, well, not so much.
When my partner and I first set out on this parenting journey together, our differences were pretty obvious. We didn't realize how much they'd affect the way we'd parent, though. I'm the oldest to one younger brother, and I've always been the one "in charge." Responsibility came with the territory because our single mom worked and put herself through school, so I guess all that spilled over into my adult life. My partner was an only child with less on his shoulders and a more laid back lifestyle; something I can't relate to. Just like my childhood impacted my parenting, his experiences have crafted how he handles different life situations. Like fatherhood, for example.
With two children and years of trying to find a middle ground between our techniques, I'm grateful for what my partner's passive attitude has taught me. Still, I hope some of the following "suggestions" have encouraged him to be more involved in the day-to-day decisions in our household. In the end, it only serves to benefit our children and our relationship.