When it comes to great sex, many people have the same elusive goal: achieving simultaneous orgasm. Sure, you can have a rich and fulfilling sex life without ever happening across the particular set of circumstances necessary to pull off this feat. But the allure of mutual release has many couples seeking ways to have simultaneous orgasms the next time they get down.
Before you and your partner start gunning for the double-O in earnest, there is a caveat. “There's only a small percentage of couples who can reach orgasms at the same time," sexuality counselor Ian Kerner told Glamour. And don't worry — this doesn’t reflect anything about the state of your overall relationship. “I can't find any real research looking at it, other than some suggestions that mutual, simultaneous orgasms are not as common as people believe,” David J. Ley, a clinical psychologist, told Psychology Today. So if you can pull it off, great! And if not, well, there’s no harm in trying, right? As long as you both have fun along the way, pursuing the mythical mutual orgasm can become an interesting part of your sexual repertoire. Here are some techniques that may increase your odds of achieving simultaneous orgasm.