We live in a society where the word "entitlement" is thrown around a lot. It refers to kids who need participation trophies and teenagers who expect their parents to upgrade them every time there is a new iPhone on the market. Parents have become so fearful of raising entitled children that they sometimes hold back praise which can have an effect on a child's self-esteem. Thankfully, there are some ways to make your child feel confident, but not entitled.
According to Ask Dr. Sears, self-esteem is the foundation of a child’s well-being and the key to success as an adult. Sears refers to self-esteem as "your child’s passport to a lifetime of mental health and social happiness." It's a pretty big deal. People who feel good about themselves tend to get along better with others and work harder, whereas kids who have low self-esteem can be moody, volatile, and give up more easily. Think back to those days when your teacher praised your work or your mom and dad hung that A+ on the fridge. Those scenarios made you feel confident, and positively affected your future performance. But because you earned those grades, you didn't feel entitled. This is the balance parents are seeking.
Here are some ways that you can help your child's confidence grow without making them feel entitled.