I’ve thought a lot about what I would do if my child was transgender. Not because it’s something I want to prevent, or something I’m worried might happen. No, I’ve thought about it because I want to be prepared with ways to support a transgender child if they tell me that they think they’re trans (and especially if they tell me they know they’re trans). Maybe they won’t use the word "transgender," but if they express a dysphoria with their body or a feeling that they’re not the gender they were assigned at birth, I want to be able to help guide them through the process of claiming their true gender.
Supporting your transgender child is crucial to helping them develop self-worth and a sense of love for who they are. Unfortunately, growing up trans can still be very difficult. It shouldn't be this way anymore, but even in 2016, they’ll likely face judgement and scrutiny from the outside world. They shouldn’t have to face it at home, too. Their home and their family should be their safe haven, one that builds them up and validates their whole self, that accepts them for who they are and loves them for exactly that. So if you find yourself raising a transgender child, or know someone who is, here are few things should and shouldn't do to support a trans kid and make them feel totally, completely loved.