You've heard the old adage about stick and stones breaking bones, but the wise old scribe who penned this phrase got the ending wrong. Words can hurt you, and the impact of those words can have a deeper burn than you may realize. And it's not just the playground teasing associated with childhood. Turns out there are comments from your partner that are messing with your mental well being without you even noticing. Some common phrases that everyone is guilty of uttering from time to time can take a toll not only on your relationship, but on your self-esteem, confidence, and stress levels as well.
Words have weight, and too many of the wrong kind can start to wear you down. As psychologist Dr. Devon MacDermott told Prevention magazine, when a partner makes comments that cause you to question or second guess your own ideas, memory, perceptions, and beliefs (known as gaslighting), it's a sure sign the relationship is lacking in respect. Little comments hear and there start to add up and before you know it, your well being has taken a turn for the worse. It's not always grand insults and put downs, snide and condescending remarks can be posed in very ordinary ways, such as these eight examples.