Not sure about you guys, but I got kinda tired about the “babies don’t come with an instruction manual!” jokes I heard throughout my pregnancy. I mean, there are plenty of books and websites, and there’s that one crucial YouTube video of the mom with the lovely accent showing you how to take a onesie off a baby, so it’s not like we’re completely unsupported—there are a lot of instructional manuals, actually. Besides, I think it comes down to just a few basic points. Everything else is just icing on the cake (or ribbon on the diaper cake, whatever). That said, if I were to put together a definitive guide for parents, it’d probably be pretty short. Something like Rule #1: Meet your baby’s biological and emotional needs, and Rule #2: You do you at every given opportunity.
And one of the crucial things about that second one is allowing yourself to feel all the feels that come with being a new mom. It’s not all snuggles and teddy bears—there’s a whole array of feelings that rarely get brought up in friend circles, and certainly not in the guidebooks either. But you know what? Most of us feel them, and that's completely OK. Join me in acknowledging some of the most common feelings we’re not talking about as often as we should: