When people find out how long my husband and I have been married, the first thing they usually ask is, "What's your secret?" I always tell people that there's no one thing that's going to make sure your marriage endures. Rather, it's a whole set of values and habits that make your marriage continually interesting and continually fulfilling. For us, flirting and being silly, and even a little naughty, keeps us on our toes and in each other's thoughts. Everyone should flirt with their partner, so here are some flirting techniques to help your marriage, and maybe even spice it up a little bit.
Flirting can range from the light and innocent, to something you have to hide from the children lest you wish to scar them for life. The beauty of flirting is how it makes you feel. When your spouse flirts with you, it makes you feel wanted, sexy, and connected. Dr. Dara Bushman, aka "Dr. Dara," a licensed clinical psychologist and relationship expert, tells Romper that "flirting is imperative for the longevity of relationships. When you met, flirting is what created that butterfly feeling of excitement in your stomach and the thrill to keep wanting more. Flirting can be playful, sassy, and spicy to ignite and re-ignite the flattest of relationships."
Flirting implies attraction and interest, and that is empowering when you have been together for a long time. When you flirt with your spouse, it is almost a game that only the two of you get to play, but there's never a winner or a loser. How you do it will depend on your personality and your dynamic as a couple, but I truly believe it is essential in a happy marriage.