When I gave birth to my daughter over 10 years ago, I read some things about postpartum life that turned out to be, well, completely wrong. Doting new moms love to share their experiences and hey, I get it. I'm one of them. But after going through that whole period myself, hardly any of it proved true for me. Some lies the internet told me about postpartum life aren't just wrong, they're horrifically misleading and, honestly, frustrating. They made me feel like something was wrong with me for having a different experience than the one I was lead to believe I'd enjoy.
My postpartum days began with a dreadful start to breastfeeding. My milk supply didn't come in, my baby wouldn't latch, and soon a palpable inability to attach and bond to my baby became to form, in part, because of undiagnosed postpartum depression. I'd read everything I could get my hands on regarding post-pregnancy life and yet, as I lived it, I felt absolutely clueless. Where all the saved articles said breastfeeding would happen if I just gave it time, it didn't. For all the sites that claimed I'd have so much love for my newborn upon first meeting, I only wallowed deeper into self-loathing. Because I didn't feel that way.
My postpartum life wasn't comparable to everything I'd read, because every woman's experience is vastly different. Still, I wanted to believe in the good parts because, at the time, that hope was all I had at times. I will say, the one thing I read that was true? Every bit of what I'm saying below is worth it. With that, here's some of those lies the internet said that didn't ring true for me.