Just like we track our kids’ milestones as they grow up, we should track our own milestones as parents. For example, I celebrated being able to leave the house for the first time on my own with my newborn. So, in my opinion, there are some things you need to do with your baby before they are 3 months old, just to get a little sense of accomplishment as a new mom. Being able to eat a meal uninterrupted by a child’s needs was huge "win" for me, and helped build my confidence.
It took some convincing, though, before I was sold that I should try to cross a bunch of stuff off a “new mom” bucket list when my newborn was so… new. Veteran mothers advised me that while the baby is still that little, I should pay attention to my own needs more often that I thought necessary. And, yes, babies under 4 months sleep a lot, and while they don’t always sleep at convenient times (like at night), at least during those stretches of time when they are napping my partner and I could shlep them along to a local restaurant and enjoy a nice-ish dinner out. I could still carry them in one arm, without much effort, and hold a book in the other.
This ideology wasn’t foolproof, though. In fact, I had many false starts with showers, where I’d be just about to step in and my infant would wake up too soon from a nap, wailing in hunger. But I will say there were more opportunities to do things for myself when my baby was under 3 months than there were when she was in progressively more active stages.
So here are some things I suggest you trying to do with your baby before they reach 3 months: