I have a running commentary in my head. Sometimes it involves judgment of other people for various reasons, and that's usually followed by admonishing myself for judging people when I don't know why they're doing what they're doing. Does that sound familiar? If you have a similar running commentary, it'll sometimes mean there are things you'll want to say to your mom friends but don't, because friendship with them is what gets you through some of your toughest parenting days.
It can be easy to forget, especially as a first-time mom who is still working out her parenting style, that a lot of parenting ends up coming down to whatever works for you and your kid. The books and rules and general suggestions by the best specialists all seem well and good, until you're in the trenches and just need your kid to eat something. I mean, honestly, who cares if it's another chocolate chip cookie?
And of course, the last thing you want to do is judge your mom friends, because you can be absolutely sure you're going to do some wacky stuff as a mom in the future, too. I have a feeling it'll be darn helpful if they keep their mouths shut when you do it.