The longer you've been with someone, the more things you have to fight about. Each year together can bring more situations that cause conflict. Work gets stressful, children enter the picture — the fights long-term couples have span the spectrum of all the things that have compiled in the life you've shared, as well as things you feel are missing.
When it comes to couples and fighting, it doesn't all have to end in a three week silence of not speaking to each other. In fact, according to Psychology Today, couples who work to solve conflict grow stronger. The key is communication — being respectful and non judgmental — as well as being willing to let things go once the problem has been resolved. Although these skills take time, practice, and commitment, it's worth it for long term couples to invest their best strategies into conflict resolution, because fights happen.
No matter how many years you've invested into a being couple, sometimes the fights can make you want to give up. It's really hard work to keep going sometimes. To help you remember you're not alone, find some validation in these nine fights every long term couple has, because no one's relationship is perfect.