"Not being attracted to men doesn't mean we're not into penetration," says Lisa. "Women can enjoy penetration even if there's no man involved." Fingers, vibrators, strap-ons, there are plenty of ways to stimulate a woman involving penetration that feel nothing like a penis, she said.

Just because lesbians are portrayed as being amazing at oral sex simply because they're lesbians, doesn't mean that's always the case. Emily describes her introduction to lesbian sex as just that, an introduction. "There's a learning curve," she says. Nobody is automatically good at any sexual act, just because of their sexual preference.

"Some women love scissoring, some women prefer their sex sans scissoring," says Emily. "It's all about personal preference." Though scissoring, or tribadism, is prevalent in media's portrayal of lesbian sex, it's not the end-all be-all.

Most lesbian porn is written and directed from the eye of straight men, meaning that most lesbian porn is what straight men think lesbian sex is like. "How much of your sex looks like what you see in porn?" Lisa asks. "Lesbian porn provides just as much unrealistic expectation as any other kind of porn." Don't believe everything you see, folks.

Queer sex is still sex, and carries all the same risks as any other form of sex where you exchange fluids and make contact with someone else's genitals. The Office of Women's Health at the U.S. Department of Health and Human Services goes in depth on sex risk and prevention.

"I think there's a lot of stereotypes when it comes to lesbians, with the way we identify," says Lisa. "Not all butch lesbians are tops, not all femme lesbians are bottoms, not all lesbians fit into a cookie cutter stereotype or identity."

"Lesbian sex is very real," Emily says. "Just because we don't engage in society's traditional idea of sex between a man and a woman doesn't mean it's not sex." Not all heteronormative sex requires penetration, or a penis, to be considered sex.

"There's this weird misconception that women know how to please women just because they have the same body parts," Emily says. "But as a woman, you know that there's not one specific way to please a woman." Emily explains that just like you have to explore your own body when discovering your sexuality, it takes some time and practice to become a pro at pleasing your partner — regardless of their sex or orientation.

There's a notion that long-term lesbian relationships experience an enormous decrease in sexual behavior, referred to as lesbian bed death. Of course, if you ask any couple in a long-term relationship, a dramatic decrease in their sex life is a concern. The term comes from sociologist Pepper Schwartz, who used it to describe sexless lesbian relationships in her 1983 book American Couples. “Lesbian Bed Death is the greatest disservice we ever did to our community. We really screwed ourselves with that one, but not in a good way,” Felice Newman, author of The Whole Lesbian Sex Book, said in an interview with the Daily Dot. “Because in fact the statistics don’t vary that much. If you’re straight or you’re gay, long term relationships can be challenging when it comes to sex.” Though in the past there hasn't been much solid data about the habits of lesbians when it comes to sex, Autostraddle published a study in 2015 that debunked the myth of lesbian bed death, easing the minds of lesbians everywhere.