Not all couples enter a marriage completely confident about every major marital detail they’ll face. That’s natural; making decisions together is part of what being partners is all about. And asking your partner questions (and then really listening to the answers) is a simple way to find out what he or she thinks about standard topics as well as major life issues like children, finance, and intimacy. When it comes to the big stuff, there are questions that can make (or break) a marriage, if the conversation is truthful and thoughtful.
These questions aren’t easy ones to ask, even if you’re comfortable with your partner. Not to mention, you may be particularly anxious about starting a major conversation. After all, if the two of you are completely opposed about a life-changing issue, like whether or not to have a baby, that’s something that could end your marriage, right? It’s true, asking your partner – and yourself – certain questions might lead to deal-breaking answers. But opening up a dialogue now and seeing if there’s room for compromise could be the difference between a marriage that ends with disappointment and unfulfilled dreams – or one that’s stronger than ever. Here are nine questions all couples should ask early in their marriage, lest they want their “I do’s” to become “I don’ts.”