If there's one thing in the world of sex that often gets a bad rep, it's one night stands. For some reason, society prefers to slut shame folks who enjoy having one night stands than accept them for the sexual beings they are. Even though preconceived notions about one night stands have come a long way, there's still a stigma around them. But there's no reason to be embarrassed about enjoying yourself a one night stand, or two, or three. In fact, there are reasons not to be embarrassed about liking one night stands.
Maybe you're not sure if you like having one night stands. Maybe you're still teetering on the edge of society's perception and enjoying yourself without emotional repercussions. When it comes to sex, nothing is sexier than someone who is confident in what they like. So the next time you're debating on the shame factor of having a one night stand, turn to this list and shake off those shameful feelings. Because it's your body, it's your choice, and if you want to do it, you should, regardless of what other people might think about it. And remember that you're not alone, because if nobody liked one night stands, they wouldn't exist.
1. Because You're Not Looking For A Commitment
If you're looking to get laid with no strings attached, it's time for you to start wearing your love of one night stands loud and proud. Because you know what's more embarrassing than a one night stand? Leading someone on and then having to crush their hopes when you weren't looking for a commitment in the first place. By refusing to be embarrassed for liking one night stands, you own the fact that you're not looking for more than one night, and avoid the embarrassment of having to sheepishly explain that you're really not interested in hanging out with them next week.
2. Because Owning What You Like Is Hot
Confidence is sexy, so be confident in what you like, even if that's a one night stand. What you like sexually (and emotionally) is more important than living up to someone else's expectations of what you "should" like. Own what you like, and your partner for the night will be wowed by your confidence.
3. Because Sex Positivity Is Awesome
Are you familiar with sex positivity? It's the idea that as long as the sex you're having is consensual, and it's what you like — that it's awesome. So no matter how you like to have sex, or how often, or with who, the sex positivity movement is there to back you up.
4. Because You're Not Ready For A Relationship Again
If you're on the heels of a breakup and need some time to heal, there's no reason you can't heal while also having sex. One night stands are a perfect way for you to recover from your last relationship while not forging a new one. Just because you need to figure yourself out emotionally doesn't mean that you can't enjoy yourself sexually.
5. Because Variety Is A Good Thing
Do yourself a favor and explore your options. Variety is the spice of life, and this includes your sex life. You don't need to have a relationship with everyone you have sex with, and there's no reason to be ashamed of that. Personally, the best sex of my life happened with a one night stand. And I hold that one night stand in high regard. Because it was one night of glory, and there wasn't another chance to ruin that glory. And sometimes, one night of glory is all you need.
6. Because You Cannot Survive On Your Vibrator Alone
Single women of the world, raise your vibrators high. They're wonderful, they're kind, they're kinky, and they're your best friend when you're horny and alone. But there's no reason to rely on your vibrator alone. Instead of buying a lifetime supply of batteries, head out on the town and find yourself a human way to satisfy your needs. Just be sure to specify exactly what it is you're looking for: one night.
7. Because You Can Really Let Loose
There's a certain sense of adventure that comes with anonymity. You can do things, try things, wear things you never would with someone you already know. Because there's no worry of whether or not you're ever going to see this person again, you're free to do all the things you've been nervous to try, or shy of in past sexual relationships. Relish the power that a one night stand gives you.
8. Because You're In Control
When you're getting intimate with someone you're interested in emotionally, there are so many strings attached. Do you pretend to be asleep? Do you spend the night? Did they like when you did that thing? How long should you stay? The best part about one night stands is that all of those little questions flying around inside your head float away when you're in control. You go into the situation knowing you're in it for one thing, and one thing only, and it gives you a certain sense of control. Like you're a boss. No, you're the boss.
9. Because Double Standards Can Go Die Now
One night stands are just one of the many double standards that society thinks is OK for men to adhere to, but shame women for partaking in. It somehow suggests that women don't like sex, or that they're too emotional to have sex with no strings attached. Romantic comedies only perpetuate these myths. Rarely do you see a female lead whose sole purpose in a film isn't to find the right guy to settle down with. The best way to crush that kind of double standard is by wearing the fact that you love a good one night stand right on your sleeve. Now, I'm not saying you should brag about all of your one night stands, or that you should try and cram as many one night stands as you can into every week. But you should hold your head high when you talk about your one night rendezvous. No more walks of shame, only strides of pride.