Do orgasms feel like something everyone else is having, but you’re missing out on? Do you find yourself wondering what everyone’s raving about because you find getting off to be less-than-mind-blowing? Or maybe you just want to make sure you’re having the best climaxes you possibly can. It’s normal for cisgender women to find orgasm difficult to achieve, or less intense than you’d like. But if you’re looking to add some bang to your, well, bang, you’re in luck. There are plenty of ways for people with vaginas to have better orgasms.
But let’s get one thing straight — there’s a ton of unrealistic expectations put on us when it comes to sex. All that pressure can make you second-guess yourself, and sex should be about feeling good, not beating yourself up. Whatever sex you’re having and however you’re getting yourself off, is wonderful. Small orgasms are great, big orgasms are great. They’re all great.
But if you’re wondering why your “Big O”s seem to be lacking in size, there could be several factors at play. There are many things that can affect your ability to climax that you may never have considered. Here are some reasons that you might not be having the orgasm of your dream.