As you progress through your pregnancy, your body will change a great deal. To accommodate those changes, your sex life may have to adjust, too. As your belly expands and your joints begin to ache, your favorite positions may no longer be feasible. And since each trimester presents slightly different challenges and symptoms, what works in the first won’t necessarily work in the third. Finding the best positions for each stage of pregnancy may be a process of trial and error, and you can try these suggestions to help you figure out which are best for you and your partner.
Some people may not want to have sex during pregnancy, and that’s OK. But some people do, and if you’re one of those people, you might find that your go-to sex positions simply don’t work with your new body shape. But the fun thing about pregnancy is that it forces you and your partner to get creative and try things that you might normally not have. And, pregnancy sex even comes with a few benefits: “It’s a great time to connect with your partner, sleep better, and make you happier overall. There shouldn’t be any risks unless you have a history of preterm labor or placenta issues,” says Dr. Gil Weiss, M.D., assistant professor of clinical medicine at Northwestern Memorial Hospital and OB-GYN at the Association for Women's Health Care, in an interview with Romper.
In the process you may actually discover a new favorite position that you never would have known about if you hadn’t had a belly to contend with. If you’re concerned about sex causing miscarriage during the first trimester, Weiss says, “In most patients, this shouldn’t be an issue. In certain situations, such as history of prior miscarriage, it is not recommended, and those cases are rare.” Later on in pregnancy, sex is still safe, and no — the baby can’t get “poked.” Baby is protected by an amniotic sac and fluid, which both act as a cushion, explains Weiss. “The uterus is also a strong muscle and protects the baby," he says.
Here are the three best positions for each trimester of pregnancy for you to try. These positions are for penetrative sex, whether it’s penis-in-vagina sex or one partner is strapping on. And, of course, don’t be afraid to come up with your own ideas. After all, you know what works best for you better than I do.