As you progress through your pregnancy, your body will change a great deal. To accommodate those changes, your sex life may have to adjust, too. As your belly expands and your joints begin to ache, your favorite positions may no longer be feasible. And since each trimester presents slightly different challenges and symptoms, what works in the first won’t necessarily work in the third. Finding the best positions for each stage of pregnancy may be a process of trial and error, and you can try these suggestions to help you figure out which are best for you and your partner.
Some people may not want to have sex during pregnancy, and that’s OK. But some people do, and if you’re one of those people, you might find that your go-to sex positions simply don’t work with your new body shape. But the fun thing about pregnancy is that it forces you and your partner to get creative and try things that you might normally not have. And, pregnancy sex even comes with a few benefits: “It’s a great time to connect with your partner, sleep better, and make you happier overall. There shouldn’t be any risks unless you have a history of preterm labor or placenta issues,” says Dr. Gil Weiss, M.D., assistant professor of clinical medicine at Northwestern Memorial Hospital and OB-GYN at the Association for Women's Health Care, in an interview with Romper.
In the process you may actually discover a new favorite position that you never would have known about if you hadn’t had a belly to contend with. If you’re concerned about sex causing miscarriage during the first trimester, Weiss says, “In most patients, this shouldn’t be an issue. In certain situations, such as history of prior miscarriage, it is not recommended, and those cases are rare.” Later on in pregnancy, sex is still safe, and no — the baby can’t get “poked.” Baby is protected by an amniotic sac and fluid, which both act as a cushion, explains Weiss. “The uterus is also a strong muscle and protects the baby," he says.
Here are the three best positions for each trimester of pregnancy for you to try. These positions are for penetrative sex, whether it’s penis-in-vagina sex or one partner is strapping on. And, of course, don’t be afraid to come up with your own ideas. After all, you know what works best for you better than I do.
The first trimester is the time to get into all the positions that will be off-limits or impossible later in your pregnancy.
The most common sex position is also the most comfortable for many of us. It’s the classic and romantic scenario where one person lies down and the person on top controls the speed and the flow. It gets a bad rap for being basic, but there’s nothing boring about the loving eye contact and sensual skin contact it allows. If this is your go-to, you only have a few more months to go to it before your belly makes it impossible.
The rear-entry aspect of doggy style, where the woman or receiving partner crouches on all fours, makes the vagina more accessible to deep penetration. Later in pregnancy, the depth of doggy style can be too intense, which makes this an ideal first-trimester position, notes BabyCenter.
For the tight squeeze, you lie down on your stomach with your legs straight and slightly spread. While getting on top, your partner should use their elbows to keep some of their upper-body weight off of you. Once you have a baby bump, lying on your stomach will no longer be an option. Until then, this position, which not only allows you to lie down but also provides G-spot stimulation, is still fair game. And this is my favorite position, which means it’s definitely awesome.
During the second trimester, you may notice a spike in your sex drive, which means you might get a lot of mileage out of these positions.
If you’ve ever done a bridge pose in a yoga class, then you already know how to do the bridge in bed. Lay on your back, feet flat on the bed. Have your partner kneel between your legs and enter you, and you can thrust your hips up into the air. This position not only makes your baby bump a non-issue, but gives your partner easy access to your clitoris so you can enjoy some of those intense pregnancy orgasms.
The Standing Doggy
The standing doggy is great for times when you’re still pretty mobile and comfortable standing, but when your belly may be starting to get in the way. You stand facing a wall with your hands against it and stick your butt out slightly while your partner enters you from behind.
Woman (Or Pregnant Person) On Top
While your belly might be presenting some obstacles, your body isn’t yet exhausted enough to have difficulty spreading your legs and climbing on top of your partner. Plus, this position lets you control the speed and depth of penetration while providing lots of clitoral stimulation, too. Shed any insecurities you might have about your growing, pregnant body and tap into your power. Positioning yourself on top doesn’t just give you control over the intensity but also the scene. Move it to the couch, a chair, the stairs. It’s your show.
The third trimester is the trickiest time for sex positions, but also a great time to try positions that are totally new to you, while you’re forced to get creative.
This position is great for those times when you’re feeling a little less mobile. Lie down on your side with your partner behind you. You can put a pillow under your belly for added support, and the shallow depth should keep the position from feeling too intense. It’s a nice way to stay physically close and cuddled up to your partner at a time when your baby bump might feel like something very literal coming between the two of you.
The eagle position involves you lying on your back with your legs up and slightly bent, while your partner kneels between them. This can also be modified so that your partner is standing at the edge of the bed. In both positions, your partner can use your thighs for leverage, and can penetrate without the obstacle of your pregnant belly.
Not just for high rollers, this position allows you to utilize furniture like a chair or a couch. Have your partner sit down, while you sit on top of them, facing away. It’s easy, comfortable, and provides plenty of support where you need it. Your very pregnant belly is out of the way, but you’re still in control of your sexual experience.
Dr. Gil Weiss, M.D., assistant professor of clinical medicine at Northwestern Memorial Hospital and OB-GYN at the Association for Women's Health Care
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