Some say you're born with it, others think it can be taught. But it may be a little bit of each of these ingredients that make a person independent. If you're trying to spot this quality in your child, you may have to look beyond surface level to see how your child is developing her independence. At first glance, it might seem like she is not interested in your company, but more is going on. Noticing the signs your child is finding their independence — not ignoring you — takes some awareness to recognize. But once you see how much this benefits your kiddo, you'll be happy she's going her own thing.
In order to encourage independence in your child, you must be willing to step back. Less interference with problem solving is a good place to start. Your child is capable of more than your realize, and making her own sandwich is one way she is showing you that. It's not that she doesn't love the way you spread the jelly, it's just her way of figuring out how to be more self-sufficient.
Being able to confidently move through the day with minimal help from a parent is a strong characteristic for a child to possess. Consider it a good thing if you see any of these nine signs of independence in your child.