Dating is rough. Nowadays there are a thousand distractions for every relationship out there, and it can be hard to know whether or not the relationship you're in is the right relationship for you. People date the wrong people all the time. People date people who aren't good enough for them all the time. But reading the signs you're too good for your partner can be difficult. Nobody wants to believe they're in a relationship that's not going to work out. Even fewer people want to feel like they've been wasting their time in their relationship. But at the end of the day, that's just a risk you take while navigating the wild world of dating.
Though it seems like millennials are doing relationships differently than generations past, there's still plenty of room for error. And plenty of people out there in the world that you're just not meant to be in a relationship with. Out of billions of people in the world, it can be daunting to think about finding the perfect person. Which is why society today practically begs people to settle down with what's in front of them, so the propensity of winding up in a relationship that's not great for you is higher than ever. Still, it can be hard to recognize. In order to avoid these pitfalls, read on.
1. Your Partner Has No Motivation
If your partner doesn't have very much ambition or motivation, you're in the wrong relationship. Without goals or direction in their lives, you've already outgrown your partner in maturity and potential, which will only cause a bigger rift down the road. Seek out a partner who's just as motivated as you are, and you'll find that you make a much better match.
2. Your Partner Doesn't Meet You Halfway
Compromise is key when it comes to healthy relationships, and if your partner doesn't even bother meeting you halfway, you're in for trouble. From pitching in, to family holidays, to daily chores, a relationship is about compromise, and about making things work for the both of you. Not just making it work for your partner.
3. You Often Feel Like A Parent
Are you constantly nagging? Doing simple things for your partner that they should really be able to do for themselves? If you feel like your partner's mother, you need to reassess your relationship and responsibilities. Your partner should be your equal, not another human being that relies on you for handouts.
4. Your Partner Doesn't Keep Their Word
If you're in a relationship with someone who has a hard time keeping their word — whether it's cancelling plans or following through on to-do lists — you're definitely wasting your time. Everyone cancels plans every once in a while. Everybody gets the procrastination bug here and there. But if your partner is a constant repeat offender? It's time to talk about it with your partner.
5. Your Partner Doesn't Support You
This should be a no-brainer, but if your partner doesn't support you in your hopes, dreams, aspirations, or even just when you're having a hard time, then your partner is much too low on the totem pole for you. Your partner either needs to step up to the plate, or head out the door.
6. You're Constantly Making Excuses For Your Partner
If you find yourself constantly making excuses for your partner to your pals, your co-workers, and even yourself, then you're much too good for them. You should be proud of your relationship and your partnership, not searching for another excuse as to why they couldn't attend the company dinner... Again.
7. Your Friends And Family Aren't Impressed
Your friends and family are the people who know you best, and a general air of disappointment around your partner means you're way too good for your partner. Your family and friends won't necessarily get along with everyone you bring into your life, but they certainly know you, and they definitely want the best for you. Trust in them.
8. Your Partner Doesn't Value Your Opinion
If your partner doesn't value your opinion, your partner doesn't value you. And respect is paramount in any relationship, especially in a romantic relationship. You should feel comfortable sharing your thoughts and ideas with your partner. And if your partner doesn't think much of your thoughts and ideas? You're much to good for your partner.
9. You Often Feel Let Down
If you feel let down constantly by your partner then you need to reevaluate your relationship. Regardless of your expectations, you should be in a relationship that far exceeds them. A partner who is good enough for you will rise to the occasion, every time.