When people talk about stay-at-home moms, there's a whole lot of insinuation happening. For example, that they just sit around all day and eat Bon Bons a 'la Married With Children. Honestly, before I became a mom who chose to stay home with two little ones, I was part of that crowd. It's easy to assume when you've never been in the situation. However, there are some stay-at-home mom stereotypes everyone should ignore because, now that I've lived the stay-at-home mom life and can testify to its reality, most of those stereotypes are completely false (but, really, who doesn't love bon bons?!).
My decision to stay home with my firstborn was a result of my own childhood. My divorced mother of two worked hard to pay the bills and put herself through college. This meant my younger brother and I were often left in the care of whomever was affordable and/or convenient, and sometimes those people didn't live in places that were always conducive to our safety or wellbeing. Truthfully, I was scarred by those experiences, and knew that whenever I had children, I'd have to be the one home with them.
At the same time, I also knew I wanted to maintain my career, so mentally, I concocted a plan to do whatever I could to work from home. It took awhile to find my financial footing but I wouldn't' trade a single experience. For over a decade, I've been the primary person my kids rely on every single day, and that makes every sacrifice worth it. Still, there are some people who still believe those of us who stay home with our kids "have it easy." I'm here to set the record straight.