Whether you're in the midst of new friendships, office culture, or the latest family gathering, sometimes, figuring out how to navigate your own likability can be tricky. Most people don't actually try to be unlikable, it's just something that happens. You're not going to be liked by everyone you come into contact with, but there are certain traits that make you less likable, and they might actually surprise you.
Whether you have a different definition of obnoxious or you're concerned that you might be rubbing people the wrong way, you may want to take a look at the way you interact with others. This way, you can see if you might be adapting some of the following traits that make you less likable. Whether or not you choose to adjust the way you interact with the people around you is completely up to you, but at the end of the day, it's good to be self aware, isn't it? So rather than coasting through life as is, take a look at the traits that make you a less likable person, and take them into consideration the next time you're navigating the waters of social interaction, no matter where you are, or what you're doing.
1. You Hide Your Emotions
Though you might think that keeping your emotions in check would make you more likable, Bustle noted that keeping your emotions undercover makes you less likable. Think about it, when someone you know hides their emotions and pretends everything is OK all of the time, it makes them seem fake, doesn't it? Striking a balance between being honest about how you feel and not being too dramatic will help you be a more genuine, likable person.
2. You're Too Serious
According to The Huffington Post, being too serious can turn people off to your personality. People naturally gravitate toward people who balance their ability to focus on their work with the ability to have fun and be social. People who come across too serious often come across as disinterested, and unable or unwilling to connect with others.
3. You Love To Humble-Brag
Admit it — people who humblebrag are the worst. Even though it might seem like the best way to casually drop something you're proud of without seeming too braggy, humble-bragging is definitely a surefire way to get people to like you less. According to Time, people who are conceited and obsessed with their own accomplishments aren't attractive to anyone.
4. You're On Your Phone All The Time
In this day and age of technology, it's easy to feel like you need to be connected all of the time. Between texts and apps and reminders, if you're like me, your phone is going crazy for the most of the day. But according to The Huffington Post, people who are constantly on their phone during conversations with others are much less likable than those who pay attention to their conversation partners. No brainer, right?
5. You Share Too Much Online
This is one of those things that can be tricky to navigate. In the age of Snapchat, Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram Stories, and more... how much is too much? For most people, there's a natural inclination to share accomplishments, or check in on old friends. But there are plenty of people out there who take the concept of sharing to an entirely new level. Oversharing. Rather than sharing every moment on Facebook Live, check yourself every once in a while. Does that really need to be shared? Is this adding value to anyone's life? Or is this my third meme of the day? Like most things in life, moderation is key.
6. You Gossip
It should go without saying that gossips aren't very likable. Because gossipy people are quick to talk about other peoples business, it makes them seem less trustworthy. Wasting time talking about other peoples misfortunes can not only wind up hurting those people, it makes you look like a negative person every time.
7. You're Close-Minded
People who are well liked often times search for ways to find agreement with others. When challenges and dissonance pops up in relationships, according to Inc, likable people search to resolve the issues rather than keeping their mindset closed off.
8. You Name Drop
According to Inc, people who namedrop tend to rub people the wrong way. Even if you know awesome people, namedropping them in conversation only makes you seem oddly obsessed with the fact that you know these cool people. The coolest people who know cool people don't flaunt it. And it makes them more likable in the longrun.
9. You Don't Ask Questions
According to Today, people who don't ask questions or show concerns about other people are much less likable in the longrun. Caring for other people, asking questions about their lives, makes you emotionally intelligent, and makes your relationships stronger.