Many times in my life, I've referenced my social anxiety as simply being part of my genetic makeup. I'm pretty sure I came out of the womb shielding my eyes and asking everyone to leave me alone, and it's not something that's improved over time. Actually, it's worse and, arguably, more awkward. Now that I'm a grown-ass woman with a partner and children, I wish I could wave a magic wand when my anxiety becomes too much, but there are also things moms with social anxiety (like me) can be really proud of.
My anxiety is a well-rounded one that doesn't end or begin with having children. When I was a young girl, I feared making a fool out of myself when trying to make friends so, instead, I'd climb our front yard tree and talk to the squirrels because they couldn't judge me. I've always been overly in-tune with the way I think others perceive me so, in order to conserve a little bit of dignity, I usually avoid people as much as possible. Sounds fun, right? I didn't really stop going out or being social altogether but, instead, switched personalities as quickly as I could to suit whatever situation I was in. I'd unzip the comfort of my usual skin and trade it in for one that's more "out there" for short bursts of time, only to retreat back into the familiar before anyone could figure me out. I'm a complicated being and the social anxiety probably makes me appear that much more weird but, after decades of explaining myself, apologizing for behaviors, and pretending I was someone I'm not, I'm OK with me.
Having two little ones certainly adds to the challenge of being a "normal" human in the world, especially when it comes to all the functions, sporting events, and school drop-offs I really don't want to be involved with. Over the years, I've had some small victories within these realms that I'm pretty damn proud of. That said, here are all the ways us moms with social anxiety should celebrate (quietly, in the privacy of our own homes, alone, or anyway that makes you feel comfortable).