Is anything sacred after a room full of people watch your push a human out of your vagina? I wish I could tell you everything will go back to normal, but that's not the way becoming a mother works. With all the new things happening in your life, I feel it's only fair to warn you about the things that change about your orgasms after having a vaginal delivery. I know what you're thinking. After all you and your vageen have been through, it doesn't seem right that you can't even depend on a decent O to stay the same.
But don't burst into tears too quickly; the news isn't all bad. When it comes to postpartum orgasms, there's good mixed in with the bad. True, your body goes through a lot and sex may be painful for some women after a vaginal delivery. But it's not all the doom and gloom — changes in your lady parts from pregnancy and birth can have a pleasantly surprising effect on your orgasms. And by surprising I mean off-the-charts crazy good and more often.
Don't assume that after having a vaginal delivery your sex life will suffer. Just look at these nine things that happen your orgasm postpartum, and focus on the big picture.
1They Are Pretty Awesome
You can go ahead and high-five all those pregnancy hormones that made you moody for nine months, because they are the reason your postpartum orgasms are rockin'. According to Women's Health, due to hormonal changes, "the number of nerve endings near your clitoris can increase, too, leading to more frequent orgasms."
2They May Be Hard To Obtain (Thanks To Your Brain)
It may be harder for you to reach orgasm post delivery, because your brain can run interference on your pleasure. Having a new baby is an added stressor and puts your brain on alert, which in turn this makes it harder for you to orgasm, according to Everyday Family. To help get your brain ready to climax, reduce distractions by making sure baby is sound asleep and give yourself permission to turn down the monitor volume.
3They May Take Time And Patience
You may not get your groove back super soon after childbirth, but don't sweat it too much. According to Parenting, you may not be able to enjoy sex right away, which makes it more difficult to orgasm. So take advantage of snuggling and making out in the meantime.
4They May Be Tingly
As clinical sexologist Kat Van Kirk told Women's Health, "there seems to be some evidence that nerve compression from the trauma of birth can increase a woman’s orgasmic sensitivity in a positive way." Who would have thought that all the pain and pushing would be rewarded by experiencing amped-up Os? Way to go, female anatomy.
5They Can Be Improved With Workouts
If you're not having the kind of orgasms you like after a vaginal delivery, you may want to try giving your vag a workout. Yep, it's kegel time — but it's so worth it. Squeezing and releasing your pelvic muscles over and over can help to intensify orgasms, according to Everyday Family.
6They May Require Liquid Encouragement
If you want to ensure your Os don't suffer, add a little lube to your pregame. As Parenting magazine pointed out, vaginal dryness is common postpartum, especially for those moms who are breastfeeding. As you're recovering from giving birth, you may want to make a tube of lube a bedside staple.
7They May Require More Time In Bed
After delivery, you're body is healing and your emotions are running high. Not being fully ready to have sex just yet can be a big factor in your Os. According to Women's' Health magazine, having more satisfying sex means you increase your orgasm intensity. Give yourself the time you need to make that romp mind blowing.
8They May Require Experimentation
After having a vaginal delivery, sensations and pleasure spots may feel different. This means you should experiment with what is feeling good to your now, post birth. As Danielle Cavallucci, a sex coach, told Health magazine, "to train your body to be orgasmic, you have to masturbate."
9They May Not Happen With Certain Positions
If you've had a vaginal delivery, it's possible you had some tearing and/or stitches. To accommodate these issues, certain sex positions are better than others. To stay in control, Psychology Today suggested variations of the woman on top position to help with female orgasm.