Is maintenance the least-sexy word of all time? It conjures up images of oil changes, lawn care, and electrical bills. But maintenance sex is a thing for some couples, and the tips to make maintenance sex hot can prevent this act of fun from feeling like a routine chore.
For starters, the idea of maintenance sex is somewhat fraught with controversy. According to a 2013 piece in The Huffington Post, maintenance sex is a myth that perpetuates the idea of male sexuality as an impulse without meaning. However, a 2015 Jezebel article posits that maintenance sex is a component of most every long-term sexual relationship: gay, straight, bi, or any other arrangement. For some people, occasionally having sex when your partner is in the mood but you aren't is no big deal. But for other people, sex should be reserved for times when both partners are totally into it. Either conclusion is fine, as long as you follow what's comfortable for your own desires and relationship.
So for those who do pursue maintenance sex from time to time, there are ways to keep it fun. Basically, no one in bed should have to lie back and think of England until the deed is done. Here are some ways to make sure everyone enjoys maintenance sex, whether you're the instigator or the recipient.