Ruts happen to most long-term relationships. Though a rut isn’t anything fatal, it can be uncomfortable and even miserable for some couples. Falling into a routine that becomes more mind-numbing than comforting, dealing with mounting stressors, acclimating once the initial rush of love wears off just a bit: not a few of our favorite things, but they can be surmounted with some effort and love. The ways to get out of a relationship funk all start with commitment.
Commitment really kicks in (or sadly, doesn't) when things get rough. That's when you need to make a decision that you are going to put effort and time into your relationship, not expecting it to last as a sex-soaked and secret sharing endless sleepover.
A rough patch doesn't have to be a total downer. This can be a time when you can really cement your relationship. Looking back on hard times that you weathered together and came out even closer is one of the benefits of a long lasting partnership. That kind of intimacy is special because it was hard-won. There are surely more than nine ways to get out of a relationship funk, because each relationship has its particular issues, but the below suggestions are pretty universal.