Growing up, most parents were more concerned with protecting, clothing, and feeding their children rather than making sure they were treating their kids with respect and building up their self-esteem. My mother reprimanded me on the spot if I acted up — and it usually wasn’t pretty. She went through my things because she believed she had access to my belongings without my permission, because she was the parent. So I made a decision as a child that I would always strive to respect my children and not pull rank as an excuse.
Now that I am an adult, I can see why my mother did the things she did when I was a kid. She was just doing the best she could, with what she had. The tools in her toolbox were most likely the ones her mother had passed down and she was coming from a loving place. It's not like today, where you can jump online and find hundreds of articles on parenting topics in under 30 seconds. Now, if we have a style of parenting we are considering, we can loose ourself in the mass of information. Which can be helpful when you have goals for your family life and they way you choose to interact.
Since I aim to keep a respectful relationship between my children and myself, I have found the plethora of information on this topic to be my north star of mothering. If you feel this style is a good fit for you, start with these nine ways to respect you child and see how it makes your relationship stronger.