Every parent who comes before you wants to chime in on how different your life will be after becoming a mom. You'll hear about how much love a baby brings to your life, how each milestone is as exciting as the last, and how very little sleep you'll get in the first year. But that's not the full story. What are the things they're not telling you? The tid-bits people leave out because it might be too strange to work into casual conversation? Like, the weird things that happen during sex after a vaginal delivery. Because that's not a topic that comes up too often at a group dinner.
It's true that your lady parts go through a lot during childbirth, but you may be surprised to learn that all that pain and pushing could pay off in ways you never imagined. Aside from producing a beautiful child you can claim as your own, delivering a baby tinkers with your anatomy just enough to make certain spots extra tingly. Which only seems right after what your vagina has been through. But in the sake of full disclosure, I should tell you that not all outcomes are this rosy, and there are a few less pleasant occurrences as well.
To see what you can expect in the bedroom after your vaginal delivery, check out these nine weird experiences you may find yourself passing on as a warning to a new mom one day.
1. You'll Have More Orgasms
If someone would have told you during delivery that all the pushing to get your baby out would lead to better sex, you may have slapped them across the face. But before you pull that slappin' hand back, you may want to check out this trade off. As clinical sexologist Kat Van Kirk told Women's Health, "there seems to be some evidence that nerve compression from the trauma of birth can increase a woman’s orgasmic sensitivity in a positive way."
2. You'll Experience Vaginal Dryness
If you're more turned on and hot for your partner than ever, but your body's not responding accordingly, don't worry. As you're recovering from childbirth, hormonal changes can lead to vaginal dryness, as Women's Day magazine reported. So although it may seem weird for your body to not make it's own lube when you're hot and bothered, it's just part of the postpartum process.
3. You'll Feel Some Pain
File this one under, "Things I Never Thought I'd Say In Bed." As Today's Parent pointed out, sex after childbirth can be painful, especially if you've had stitches or tearing from the delivery. So if you find yourself giving directions to your partner to watch out below for the stitches, just remember you'll laugh about it one day, so why not now?
4. Your "Tingly Spots" May Change
What once turned you on may not do the trick after giving birth. This means you should experiment with what is feeling good to your now, post birth. As Danielle Cavallucci, a sex coach, told Health magazine, "to train your body to be orgasmic, you have to masturbate." You may find a new spot that is more tingly than ever.
5. You May Spray Breastmilk
Turns out some of the action happens well above the belt when getting some loving after baby. According to Baby Center, "oxytocin, the hormone that causes the contractions felt during orgasm, is also responsible for the milk ejection reflex, or letdown." Which means getting turned on may mean a milk shower.
6. Your O Count Increases
Even after you have your baby, those pregnancy hormones are still swirling around in your body. But now instead of making you cry at sad songs, it makes your orgasms double down. According to Women's Health, due to hormonal changes, "the number of nerve endings near your clitoris can increase, too, leading to more frequent orgasms."
7. You May Need To Pee
As your body is returning to normal after delivery, you're likely to notice some changes during sex. As Mayo Clinic pointed out, you may need to empty your bladder before postpartum sex to help with your comfort level. This will help you avoid the urge to go while doing the deed.
8. You May Have To Try A Few Positions
Whatever position you liked before may not be what works for you best, after a vaginal delivery. As Today's Parent pointed out, some women find certain positions more painful than others after giving birth. So if what you're doing feels good, don't try to change it just to be interesting. Stick with what's working until you're healed.
9. Your Partner May Not Be Into It
Even though you may be ready to jump back into some action after having a baby, your partner may need some more time. According to Parenting magazine, some men experience hormonal dips after becoming a parent that can lead to changes in mood and dips in libido.