They say you should never discuss religion and politics in polite company. If your company includes other moms and dads, go ahead and add sleep training to that list. It’s super controversial among parents, with some who swear by it and some who would never consider it. Me? I vowed to be there for my baby until she figured it out on her own. And then months of sleep deprivation caught up to me. If you can’t remember the last time you felt well-rested, let’s talk about everything you need to about sleep training a 9-month-old— including what some experts say about that age.
I remember once when I was a pregnant, a dad I knew mentioned to me that his baby hadn’t begun sleeping through the night until around six months. I was appalled, especially since he seemed to think that was “early.” Like the naive, childless idiot I was at the time, I thought to myself that he and his wife must have made some terrible mistake. One that I of course would never make, because there was no way I could make it through six months of my life with a baby that didn’t sleep. I was extremely confident that my baby would inherit my love of bedtime and routinely go down for 10 or 12 hours at a time. Like I said, naive childless idiot.
It didn’t happen for us that way, and as much as I didn’t want to do it, in the end sleep training saved my sanity. It wasn’t easy, and there were tears (from both of us), but it was the right choice for my family. If you think it might be right for you and your baby, here are 9 things to keep in mind.