Your worst nightmare has come true. Your partner is cheating on you. You've read the signs and confirmed the betrayal. Now what? How do you deal? How do you move forward? Once you've made a decision to confront them, you need to think about the ways to confront your cheating partner. Because there is certainly more than one way, and there are certainly ways that are generally viewed as better than others. Not that any confrontation is ideal, especially when dealing with something so unsavory.
When you find out your partner is being unfaithful to you, everything feels broken. On top of that, there's the anger. How do you confront your partner without going off the rails? Is it even possible to remain calm and coherent while telling your partner what you know? It is, with a certain amount of practice. I spoke with relationship counselor and psychologist Elisabeth Graham to get her advice on how to tackle such a messy situation.
"The most important thing you can do, is to take your time processing your emotions," Graham says. "There's no prescribed resolution for the betrayal you're feeling." She goes onto say that everyone and everyone's relationship is different, and that it may take longer than expected to heal from such a trespass. She advises to take your time, and explore your options, on top of the seven steps below.