It's almost inevitable for your child to turn into a leech at some point. You know, when they suddenly become unable to do anything without you by their side? Whether it's picking out pajamas, brushing their teeth, making breakfast, or making new friends, most children go through a clingy phase. Learning how to help a clingy child feel more independent and safe on their own can not only help your child in the long run, but it can help you, too.
Though according to University of Minnesota attachment researcher Alan Soufre, most psychologists agree that it's normal for children to go through a clingy phase. But it's also important for parents to encourage children to gain their own independence while they're young and learning important life skills, so that they can learn to do things on their own for later on in life. According to psychologist Jeanne Williams, many parents have short-term parenting vision. Meaning that they worry about what needs to be done right now, rather than thinking about the long-term effects of their daily choices. This can be a hindrance to helping children think and act more independently. Although it may be easier for you to hold your child's hand through an activity in order to get the job done immediately, holding their hand for too long can cause problems later on in life.
In order to prevent your kid's clingy nature from turning into full on codependency, you'll need to start practicing a few things when it comes to parenting. Though it's a process that fluctuates from day to day, the payoff you'll receive in raising confident, capable children will be worth it in the end.