Before there was even a term for it, every mother in the history of time has understood what it means to feel "touched out." It means your arms hurt from holding your sick 2-year-old for the last 12 hours. It means your boobs are sore from nonstop nursing. It means you would like, just once, to sit alone on your side of the restaurant booth while the kids pile up on Daddy's side not giving him an ounce of elbow room. Because spouses don't always have the same experiences, it's important to learn how to talk about being touched out with your partner.
Primary caregivers spend countess hours in bodily contact with another human being. You are constantly feeding, wiping, burping, cuddling, comforting, bathing, dressing, rocking, carrying, placing the baby in the car seat, and taking the baby out of the car seat. By the end of the day, you fall into bed, glance over at your spouse and think to yourself, "Please, don't look at me that way. I just can't. Not tonight." Your skin begins to crawl at the mere thought of being intimate. Of course, your partner just wants to love on you, but you need some personal space.
Here are some ways to talk to your partner about being touched out, and what you can do together in order to work through it.