Fighting is universal. You fight with your family, you occasionally fight with your friends, you may fight with strangers on the internet, and you probably also fight with your partner from time to time. Fighting is tough because it, more often than not, can leave you feeling personally drained and maybe a little bit unsure about where things stand. Is everything OK? Is there more that needs to be hashed out? How do you move forward together - or do you need move forward apart? You may be wondering how to talk to your partner about fighting in your relationship, because, honestly, sometimes talking about conflict is really, really hard.
Although it's tempting to try and tip the scales in your favor whenever you fight, a good place to start - even in terms of talking about fighting - is by fighting fair when you do argue. According to the American Psychological Association (APA), fighting constructively is one way to keep arguments healthy and productive, rather than hurtful and divisive. Talking about fighting is different than actually fighting, but, again, it can be a tricky situation to navigate. After all, you don't want it to devolve into a fight about fighting. These five suggestions will help you peacefully broach the subject with your partner while keeping the discussion productive rather than snarky or mean.