Tantrums and toddlers are like peanut butter and jelly — but without the sweetness. Like it or not, your kid will throw fits no matter how you choose to parent them. Granted, some children are more prone to meltdowns than others, and there are ways to handle toddler tantrums that can lessen the duration and frequency of them. But, nonetheless, they're a part of toddler life. Learning how to talk to your toddler when they're mid-tantrum is a skill that every parent should have, regardless of whether tantrums are a rare occasion or happen every time you say "no."
In my own journey parenting a toddler (I say journey, because it makes it seem much less ambiguous and stress-inducing than it really is,) I've learned what does and doesn't work for my 3 and almost-2 year olds when it comes to taming the tantrums. I've learned that even though I usually want to throw a fit of my own, that generally backfires. I've also learned that toddlers are unstable creatures and that their tantrums need not make sense in my rational adult mind. My own experience aside though, the experts have a thing or two to say about parenting mid-melt down that's worth noting for future reference.