If only marriages were like fairy tales; one day you get married and the next you live happily ever after. But anyone who's been in a long-term relationship can tell you that this is not the case. Marriage takes work, patience, and compromise. If you're lucky, the effort you put in will pay off with mostly happy memories, and a few difficult ones that ended up teaching you an important lesson or two. But if you're putting in the work, and it isn't paying off, you should begin researching how to tell if your marriage is in trouble.
And adding children into a marriage can cause it to turn on its end. Tension that was once resolved with a romantic date night or roll in hay, can escalate. You can't always drop everything to focus your attention on each other when there's an infant who needs to be nursed, or changed, or comforted.
If things don't get back to normal when the kids get older, you might find that they actually get worse. Adults who spend all of their time enveloped in the task of being a parent, can forget how to be a partner once the children are grown and no longer need 24/7 attention.
Here are some signs that your marriage may be in trouble and you should seek out professional support.